tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2475908466864799408.post7572721185917688138..comments2023-05-13T07:56:31.707-04:00Comments on Current Woman: The "D" WordOlgahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13562117846236949023noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2475908466864799408.post-45979626021496486182012-03-22T08:39:13.521-04:002012-03-22T08:39:13.521-04:00But her persistence in not dwelling on the past, b...But her persistence in not dwelling on the past, but looking into what the future can hold for me, is what finally helped me turn around. She encouraged me to help others, and to be the best that I can be. When everything seemed so far out of reach, she showed me how to reach it. <br />Look for something that you child feels is out of reach, and help them achieve that goal. Start small, but make sure it's meaningful. Don't do it for them, but empower them to do it on their own. If you are going to break out of depression, you need to stop having hopeless feelings. You need to conquer yourself, your emotions, and your fears. <br /><br />If you don’t agree, I hope you have the power to delete what I have said. If you do agree, I hope you share it with everyone. <br />-KCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2475908466864799408.post-18052762145729436982012-03-22T08:38:25.314-04:002012-03-22T08:38:25.314-04:00I read your post, and I would have to agree. The ...I read your post, and I would have to agree. The only thing I would add, is try to understand the cause of the depression. As you said, it's almost cool to be depressed these days. Especially as a teenager. The problem is, kids get trapped in this cycle. If you want to be depressed, at first it is a little game, but soon, it can become a habit, and then very difficult to reverse. <br /><br />Everyone has had a traumatic experience in their life, and it truly is the people around you that essentially dictate how you cope with it. <br /><br />For example, if you begin to get more sympathetic attention after a major event from those that you are not used to getting it from, and you enjoy it, you will continue to request it. As a teenager, your biggest influences stops being your parents, and starts being the people you hang around with. <br /><br />For boys, new attention from a sympathetic girl, will greatly influence how long and how deep someone’s depression goes. At this point, there are only two people that can help. The girl who is providing the attention, and the boys parents. Unfortunately, the girl in this case, does not know how influential she really is, and what it's doing to the boy. Therefore, the only hope is on the parents. <br /><br />This is where it becomes difficult, as you cannot restrict the boy from the girl, or you cause deeper and further depression. And the conversation regarding this will not provide any positive results. What can a parent do. <br /><br />well... from my experience, encouraging activities with the girl that are exciting and busy. <br />Essentially what you are trying to do, is help them build a healthy relationship of fun, laughter, joy, so that he can see that he can still get attention, and it's much more enjoyable when it's good attention. <br /><br />Sometimes, if the people providing the sympathetic attention are mature enough, you can have a conversation with them, and let them know that if they truly want to help, and be part of the recovery, that they can do so by being positively involved. <br /><br />Of course, all this being said, is regarding someone who is depressed and not able to get through it because it is the FAD, and they are trapped or encouraged to stay there. When someone is deeply depressed, they are not looking for attention, they become more solitude. They want to be with their thoughts, and being around happy people only seems to depress them more. At this point, only the parents can help. By removing them from their comfort spot, (bedroom, home, headphones, computer) and getting them active is the only way to naturally clean their body, and their mind. but it can't be for one day, or a couple hours. It is an INTERVENTIONIf you ask a depressed person what they want to do, they will say "nothing", and they will find excuses. <br /><br />My saving grace, after losing my 8 year old brother, was my mother. She made herself available for me to talk to, but never pushed me. She encouraged me to be active, but that was the last thing on my mind. She encouraged me to be social, but the only people I found I wanted to hang around with, with those that didn't care, and didn't ask questions. It became very difficult for my mom to be able to put a smile on my face. All I would think, is "you don't understand", "you don't get it", "just leave me alone". <br /><br />Continued...<br />-KCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com