Wednesday, August 26, 2015

Let It Go Part Two

Hello my dear friends,

Today is the day to follow through on my promise. Today I will be sharing few tips on how to help you LET IT GO.

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We will get there shortly but first I would like to say thank you to someone that we lost just over a week ago. We lost a friend, a husband, a fighter for freedom and justice, a life loving man! He was not famous but well known, he was not rich but shared all he had, he was not a superhero but helped many, he was not a big man but he had a giant heart!

He is missed by many and all are still unable to comprehend the fact that he is no longer here with us, among living. He fought till the last moment. I remember the last time I saw him, his body was frail but his spirit was tough. As I was leaving, I said:"Stay strong!". He raised his arm with a tight fist in the air as if he was a MMA fighter encouraging his cheering fans. He was a fighter till the end!
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So, I would like to thank this man for being part of our lives, teaching us how to be just, how to live life, how to be generous and most importantly how to be humble. We are forever grateful for the fact that we knew you! Rest in peace!

It is rather funny, as I am writing this post he is telling me that it's too much praise for him! And yes, I will elaborate on my comment about "hearing voices from beyond". But that will be another post.

So, back to today's topic - LET IT GO. Although I was not very close to this person and did not know him that long, but I am close to someone who did. He considered him as his brother and this was the closets person he had in Ottawa. This death hit him hard! He is having a tough time LETTING GO.

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I understand, it is not easy and I had to deal with untimely death of my Dad (I could not even make it to the funeral) and my son's Dad. Both happened within eight month. This was a hard hit! And I am still feeling it from time to time.

But enough about death. As mentioned in part one there are other aspects of life that require to exercise the LET IT GO concept. And two other great examples will be a loss of a job and breakdown of a relationship. I am sure most of us have been through that grinder!

I know, I know, you are probably saying:"Can we get to the tips already?". I respect your wishes so here they are:
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1. Always focus on positive! Remember the good times! 
2. Think of the lessons you've learned. All the negative has positive!
3. Take time to analyze/rest/grieve, but don't get stuck! Life will not wait for you!
4. And finally LET IT GO! It is past! You cannot change it!

Short and sweet and seems simple enough. Yes, it is but it takes time to master. Although I am not ready to call myself a Master just yet, there is a comfort to think that I have helped few people already with these simple tips. Just please remember I am not a professional psychotherapist or a grief counselor.
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Now, the tips above might require further elaboration and of course it will be my pleasure to do so. However, I also value your time and do not want you to stick around for another hour to hear what I
have to say. Perhaps this can be another topic for discussion. Let's make it LET IT GO Part Three! So, LET IT GO to be continued....

In the meantime, I would like to thank you for stopping by. I hope you find these tips helpful and if you have any questions and do not want to wait till "elaboration post" please contact me and I will be happy to have a discussion. Also, if you have some of your own tricks that you would like to share, comment away!

As for now,

Be Active! Be Involved! Be a Current Woman!

Wednesday, August 19, 2015

Let It Go Part One

Hello my dear friends,

It's been over a week since my last post and it is amazing how much can happen in just one week. There were happy times and there were sad times but all as equally important in our lives.
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But for the last few month (actually last few years for me) there was one constant whispered by the Universe - LET IT GO! Okay, lately, it has been rather loud and thus the CAPS had to come out.

Where do I start with explaining all of the above? How about the beginning!

It is another stunning sunny and hot day! I am very fortunate to sit on the deck, look at the river, hear the wind wrestle tops of the trees, hear a frog, the grasshoppers, watch the hummingbirds enjoy the
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sweet nectar and do all of the above as I am writing this post. Yes, I am on vacation (sort off)!

This morning I had a chance to meditate on the dock while being gently touch by the wind and the sun, relax my body and mind and jump into my beautiful day. It was a great start to the day and future looked very bright!

However, after having a conversation with a friend, something changed. I got sad, few tears were shed and my mood changed. Of course, my first reaction was to figure out what happened since it is very important for future development. And after taking a little time to think about it I came back with a response - LET IT GO!

You see, in the last few years I have been exploring my spiritual self and been trying to help others to find or develop theirs. One of the things I learned (and confirmed for myself) that we as humans hold on to certain situations that drag us down, do not help our development and make us sad. We do not
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have control over most of such situations and so the best solution is to release then or LET THEM GO.

It seems simple enough but unfortunately it is not. It requires daily reminders and paying attention to your state of mind and listening to your thoughts (you know that little voice in your head?).Even with the time I have spent trying to master this skill I still find myself stuck at times. Today is a prefect example! Did something new came to my life to upset me? Not really! I simply have not really LET IT GO!

I have not realized the affect that certain matters have on our lives if we keep thinking about them and letting them stick around. You might not think about these matters every single day but they are there, just sitting in the background and watching you go about your day. And they seem to like to bother you at the most inconvenient time.

Yes, I will share few tricks that I use to make this happen or at least to try to tone the "bother" down
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but it will take place in the second part of this post. Solution is on its way but not today. Today, I would like to focus on helping you to discover and understand what those culprits are.

We all have problems in our lives. It might be money related, work or business related, relationship related, family related or health related. All of us, well most of us, think that we have control over the above. I guess in some instances we do. But all items that I mentioned usually involve outside factors. And guess what, we do not have control over those. We think we do but really think about it:

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- Money is usually related to our jobs, businesses or banks. Do we have control over them, not really. There is no longer such thing as job for life. You do not have control over the prices that businesses we deal with charge. And do I even need to explain the bank situation? I think not.
- Work or business are mostly related to our education and ambitions. Yes, there is some control but we do not have any over the decision makers of the job you applied for or the following of your business.
- Relationships are created by two people. Although you might have control over your feelings, emotions and likes, you do not have any control over how the other person feels.
- Family is supposed to be our castle, however we do not choose family and thus have no control over how some family members act or live their lives.
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- When it comes to health our doctors, governments and media always seems to have an idea what's good and what's bad for us and we try to follow the standardBut sometimes that is just not enough and no medication or drug can help you - no control.

Yes, I have been working on mastering the LET IT GO and it is work in progress. Like in any development there are ups and downs in this course. And of course I will provide you with some ideas that work for me. But that will be in Let It Go Part Two.

For now, thank you for visiting, listening and considering... remember,

Be Active! Be Involved! Be a Current Woman! 

Monday, August 10, 2015

Did You Know That You Are in Sales?

Hello my dear friends!

I hope everyone had a great weekend! I certainly was very fortunate to enjoy a lovely hot summer days in Ottawa! While I had some down time, I got together with a new friend and we had a great chat (thanks Kamla!) We chatted about few things including business.
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You see we are both self-employed and very entrepreneurial. We exchanged few of our experiences and while we were chatting business challenges this one thought crossed my mind. This is not the first time it came about and I believe it is a good time to share it with you.

There are many types of people in the world and that means there are many different personalities. We will focus on two major groups today. We do not necessarily have to look at the world, we can just look at our circle of influence - family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, etc. And as you know some of us are introverts (my son will be a great example) and some are extroverts (do I really even need to mention this about me?).

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So, this brings us closer to the point I am trying to make in this post. Extroverts are simply out there!
Hey look at me! Did you see me jump this high? Why are you not paying attention to me, I am right in your face? Well, you get the idea... we are not really shy! We are the first ones to raise the hand in the classroom, we are the first ones to express our opinion and we are the first ones in line (pretty much any line). Based on the above, we are born to be in sales.

Now we will explore the other group. They prefer to stay out of spot light, speak mostly when spoken to, and they do not jump on the dance floor as soon as the
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first note of their favorite song is played. All in all, they are a little shy. And yes, sales might not be the best place for this group. As my son likes to respond to my invitation to join me in real estate: ``Sorry Mom, but sales is not for me!``

But here is the interesting development in the story. I can honestly say that no matter which group you belong to, you are already in sales and have been since early childhood!

Of course I will elaborate. You see, as mentioned in the third paragraph, we all have circle of influence. So, despite the fact that you might belong to the ``shy group`` you made friends, created a family, got a job, etc. And how did you do that? By selling yourself!

Yes, you are a real sales person! You were born, went to kindergarten and made friends. Next you went to school and made new friends. Then came the university or college, new friends, relationships, jobs. And you got it all by selling yourself!
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Of course you understand that I am talking about selling your personality. You figured out what people were looking for, you figured out what you had to offer and you figured out how to put ask and bid together (I`ll take 100 of that please) to make it work. And it did not make a difference what group you belong to - the ``all eyes on me`` or ``please don`t pick me`` group. Congratulations!

So, here you are have been selling yourself all your life and I bet you did not even know about it. All I have to say is good for you and you are a great sales person!

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In conclusion, next time you are applying for a new job, looking for new friends or relationship, remember that you can make it happen with ease. You have done it before! The trick is to think what
worked in the past and what lessons you`ve learned about yourself or the situation. And just like that you made another sale! Time to celebrate yourself!

One piece of advice to the rowdy group - tone it down a little, not everyone as enthusiastic as we are. There is an appropriate time for our excitement. And this is coming from the expert of our kind - me!!!! But that is a whole other story, maybe even a book! Okay, I am toning it down now!

That`s all I wanted to share with you today. Of course you know that I do not mean to offend anyone and all of my posts are filled with love for all. So, it will be great to see if anyone has their own story to share or comments to make. I will be waiting to hear from you. In the meantime,

Be Active! Be Involved! Be a Current Woman!

Friday, August 7, 2015

Are You Normal?

Well hello,

Your long lost friend is back and has a sack full of new and exciting posts, ideas and news. But all in good time!

Today I would like to ask you a very important question - do you consider yourself normal?

Okay, right now you are probably thinking:"Is she normal?". To answer your question:"Absolutely!". You already know that there is a twist, so please let me explain.

Lately there has been a lot of talk in my circle about people being normal or abnormal. I also discovered that it is not only my circle that questions "normality", most of the population does (at least that what it looks like to me). And so, came the idea for this post.

Let's discuss, shall we. I am sure all of us (yes, I am guilty as well) used the following expressions few times in our lives:

- This is not normal!
- She/he is not normal!
- Why can't you be normal?

But have you ever asked yourself - what is normal? Have you ever really thought about it? Well I did and for awhile now.

My life has been very interesting due to many challenges. And looking back I came to conclusion that the challenges were created  due to my desire to be "NORMAL". You might say:"What's wrong with that?". The answer is absolutely nothing. But here is the trick, it was not my "NORMAL".

After living on beautiful plant Earth for many years my conclusion is that everyone has their own
"NORMAL". It is your own, unique and beautiful and it is important to embrace it!

So why do we still use term - this is not normal? Very simple! We live in a society that established "NORMAL" for us all. Don't get me wrong, it is important. We need laws, policies, economic standards, business practices, and such. Otherwise, we will live in anarchy.

But don't forget that without your "NORMAL" society will not be able to develop. Think about all of the discoveries over the years, think about all of the great novels that were written over many centuries, think about all of the beautiful pieces of art that has been created
since the beginning of time. Most of the people that made these discoveries or created these masterpieces were not the "NORM". Some were outcasts and considered out of their mind (Michael
Jackson or Vincent Van Gogh anyone?).

What I am trying to say is that although we are expected to live a certain "NORMAL" life, do not forget the "NORMAL" you. You are here for a reason and you are a significant part of the societal development. And in my opinion as long as it does not endanger people around you, you are totally and completely "NORMAL"! And the next time you are about to say:"That's not normal!", please stop and think. You might be offending someone or someone's action; put yourself in that situation.

In conclusions, I would love to encourage you to celebrate yourself and love the "NORMAL" you!

Please let me know your thoughts in regards to this subject! In the meantime have a fantastic day and don't forget

Be Active! Be Involved! Be a Current Woman!